tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-502513296455888830.post2242237189002319005..comments2023-09-16T22:42:00.375+08:00Comments on There's Something About Violet: Recent updatesvioletmayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08198047650171710859noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-502513296455888830.post-34218296143871773422009-05-24T19:09:27.458+08:002009-05-24T19:09:27.458+08:00Hello Mike :)
Of course I wouldn't mind your comme...Hello Mike :)<br />Of course I wouldn't mind your comment, in fact I'm really happy you leave messages here occasionally :))<br />I thought thoroughly, everything you said was right, most of the women don't look for paychecks (I know there are some money-minded/materialistic too), but not me. Otherwise I would have became somebody's mistress long time ago (LOL!)<br />No matter how tough our situation is (actually not that tough tho), I know I have to be considerate and be strong, for the man who loves me the most, and for the man I love the most :)violetmayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08198047650171710859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-502513296455888830.post-1460679066824718482009-05-23T06:34:53.182+08:002009-05-23T06:34:53.182+08:00Hi Violet,
I hope you don't mind if I chime in. ...Hi Violet,<br /><br />I hope you don't mind if I chime in. I'm not sure what I can say that would help, but I'll try.<br /><br />Men and women are fundamentally different, in how our brains work, and what society - and our families - train us to do. Nature and nurture, if you will, are conspiring against us.<br /><br />I had a coworker who worked the late night shift, with lots of overtime so he could earn a good living. Whenever I saw him, he was tired and strained. As I got to know him, I learned that he and his wife had grown apart, their marriage was foundering, he was depressed. A few months later, I was in his area again, and there he was, working on the day shift, and looking great. I asked what happened. He and his wife had a huge argument, and he said he was breaking his back to give her whatever she needed. She replied that she didn't marry a paycheck, she married a man, and would happily do without a lot of the paycheck to get back more of the man. He changed shifts, stopped the overtime, and, despite having significantly less money (and he was not that highly paid), he and his wife were so much happier.<br /><br />I'm not suggesting that for you and Kevin, but telling you that this is a very common problem. And it's something that, hopefully, will work itself out in time. Know that Kevin loves you with all his heart. He wants whats best for you and his family - which you are part of now (in his mind and heart). There is a short term penalty, but he feels it's best in the long term.<br /><br />In history, men were hunters and women were gatherers. Women actually provided most of what fed the family, but men provided the feasts - rare but huge treats. We are wired for different goals. We have to learn to accept that we're different, but try to empathize with the other. It's tough, and takes maturity to realize your perspective isn't the only valid one. You'll get it before Kevin, probably - women are usually better at these things.<br /><br />As for working together... it has it's risks. Sometimes you can help each other, sometimes having a perspective from a very different world is useful in a relationship.<br /><br />But Kevin is right - you are exceptionally beautiful, and you will have men fawning over you wherever you work. You're also trustworthy - and that's important in his work. But you're no office flower, either.<br /><br />Difficult times. Keep strong. Remember, love above all.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09532680071904453882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-502513296455888830.post-62857322095014507322009-05-22T10:26:58.871+08:002009-05-22T10:26:58.871+08:00Hello Cath :)))
First of all I would love to thank...Hello Cath :)))<br />First of all I would love to thank you for the long message. It's very good to know more about you too :)<br />Actually he really cares for me, always offer me to follow him when he has appointments, but the problem is me, I don't like just sit there and listen, like a flower vase, no good no good! Haha :P<br />Before I worked for him, I've worked for somebody else, he doesn't like the idea of me working for other people, because he thinks I'm the most beautiful woman (I don't agree, but he is very thick face shameless LOL!!), working for other people might put me in 'risk', he's worried that I will fly with another person (really what the phuck).<br />His parents both think I should help him during this stage, because it's still a new branch and need a trusted person to take care of the accounts (an unfortunate incident happened in the main office account section before, since then they will never want to hire people to take over it). They think if I work for other people, why not work for family and help to develop the business.<br />For me, I work for him because I want stay with him during tough time, give him my supports in everything he does, and there is always me whatever what happen out there..etc etc. (long reply, hey I should do a blog entry!)<br />The main reasons for him to get me a puppy are, he loves me, he knew I like it. He knew I felt lonely, and Sugar will makes a good companion :)<br />Don't worry too much about me, sometimes I'm really too negative and think too much.<br />By the way, we are engaged..hehe ;)<br />Read this!<br />http://www.violetvoon.info/2008/08/he-proposed-to-me.htmlvioletmayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08198047650171710859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-502513296455888830.post-29663996379283766112009-05-21T21:57:54.537+08:002009-05-21T21:57:54.537+08:00(Long one beware!!!)
Jeez...violet.. I UNDERSTAND...(Long one beware!!!)<br /><br />Jeez...violet.. I UNDERSTAND what you feel... I felt the same way..my hubby have their own biz and they(brothers) always outstation!!<br /><br />My hubby gave me everything so that I don't get bored. But deep in our heart (as a lady) we will feel that.<br /><br />There is time we argue about 'family time'...sometimes my hubby say... I gave you everything..what else you not satisfied (in a loving voice)..I did not answered... coz in my heart... they just don't understand women :-)<br /><br />But hey.. My hubby do really really love me..I know they(he and his brothers) doing that for family..for me and our son... sometimes we just need to accept it and try to find our own interest to make us happy..<br /><br />But I am quite worried..coz in your case..you have not married.. You have to be strong girl..let the LOVE swipe all the loneliness away...<br /><br />Changing to a new job(not in a same office might be a good idea)..So that you both will keep missing each other, coz no more stay in the same office.. (I hope soo)..I wish you both a wonderful LOVE!! and go through this love journey till the end)..Is there any end?? I don't think soo...after married...new story new episode.. :-DCathJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11835008066434660055noreply@blogger.com